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In a dilemma and don't know what to do...

745 views 34 replies 15 participants last post by  3rdCoast  
#1 ·
Man I don't even know where to start... Normally I would ask my sister about shit like this but I don't feel like asking her this.

Basically last year I pretty much made up with a girl that i'll go out with her when she is back from her trip. In the meanwhile though i've met another chick through my work. It has gone super fast between us (too fast). We have already had sex twice which I regret. She is like perfect and we got like everything in common but the problem is that she cheated on her previous boyfriend with me. I was ok and told her i'm ready to give her a chance, but the other day I stumbled across this dudes instagram and twitter. I feel so guilty because the dude looks like a really nice dude. He is even letting her stay at his place until she founds somewhere else to live. I'm super scared that she will one day cheat on me as well. Right now she seems to like really love me. She calls me perfect etc etc, but idk fam. I really feel like saying sorry to her ex because I think if we never met they would still be together. I'm also going out with this other chick on sunday...

What would y'all do in this situation? I hope this doesn't come out to the people involved, but this is the only thing that has been going through my mind and I need advice :(
 
#7 ·
I was with this girl today and told her all my thoughts. She told me to go out with the other chick and see what I feel
 
#11 ·
Normal to be worried she'd cheat on you too. However, it doesn't mean she definitely will. We all know what happened with me last year and tbh I can give all the excuses in the world and it still doesn't justify anything. But I've been with my bf for nearly a year and I haven't once thought about cheating. Even when I was put in a difficult situation I turned around and said there was no way I was repeating my past mistakes. Sometimes people do learn and change.

I'd still be cautious with her though. But it sounds like you have a good basis and that you guys could have the chance of building a good relationship. If you like her enough you'll take the risk.

With the other girl. Idk, things change, timing is everything.
 
#12 ·
Jeromey said:
is this brag time ? are we bragging ?
I'm not bragging. Would never wanna be in this situation to have to chose between 2 girls. I'm gonna go out with the other chick on sunday though.
iJuanYouLost said:
She took a huge risk by cheating on her dude while he was housing her. If she'd do it then, she'd absolutely do it when she wasn't in such a dire situation. Cut her off.
That's what i've been thinking. She is also 3 years older than me so she kinda in another stage in life. She been had relationships and i've never been in one.
jamstick said:
Normal to be worried she'd cheat on you too. However, it doesn't mean she definitely will. We all know what happened with me last year and tbh I can give all the excuses in the world and it still doesn't justify anything. But I've been with my bf for nearly a year and I haven't once thought about cheating. Even when I was put in a difficult situation I turned around and said there was no way I was repeating my past mistakes. Sometimes people do learn and change.

I'd still be cautious with her though. But it sounds like you have a good basis and that you guys could have the chance of building a good relationship. If you like her enough you'll take the risk.

With the other girl. Idk, things change, timing is everything.
Idk what happened with you but I guess you cheated then. I'll see how this other girl is on sunday. Thing is the other girl seems great af too, but the big plus she has over the girl that cheated is (i know it's objectifying) her body. It's fucking stellar.
 
#13 ·
3rdCoast said:
I'm not bragging. Would never wanna be in this situation to have to chose between 2 girls. I'm gonna go out with the other chick on sunday though.That's what i've been thinking. She is also 3 years older than me so she kinda in another stage in life. She been had relationships and i've never been in one. Idk what happened with you but I guess you cheated then. I'll see how this other girl is on sunday. Thing is the other girl seems great af too, but the big plus she has over the girl that cheated is (i know it's objectifying) her body. It's fucking stellar.
Sounds like you like this other girl more. Maybe you want to see if you can make a go of it with cheating girl because you do feel some guilt towards her cheating with you and you want to kinda make it seem like it was for "something" rather than just shit happens. I assume you are late teens/early 20's. 3 years isn't a lot of age gap but at that stage in life it usually is. Think about how much your lives will probably change in the next year and then the years to come.
 
#14 ·
jamstick said:
Sounds like you like this other girl more. Maybe you want to see if you can make a go of it with cheating girl because you do feel some guilt towards her cheating with you and you want to kinda make it seem like it was for "something" rather than just shit happens. I assume you are late teens/early 20's. 3 years isn't a lot of age gap but at that stage in life it usually is. Think about how much your lives will probably change in the next year and then the years to come.
The girl I'm going out with now on Sunday I've wanted to go out with since last year lol. This girl that cheated just came in between. Was like straight outta movie. And yeah. I'm 19 she is 22
 
#21 ·
FrequencyFP said:
You wrecked her home my man :fly:
Now her ex baes home is wrecked. You a home wrecker bro
Ah lol
 
#25 ·
She is with me now at my moms place since they went away. I saw that she got a text from her ex though. Strange