joe said:Sounds like you just want a close group of guy friends, and you're not really that interested in a fraternity. It just happens to be the most well known way to find a clique. I personally think fraternities are awful, but that's just me. Why don't you talk to the guys at the rec and flag football games? Try to hang out with them outside of sports? Join a club in something you are actually interested in?(you said you didn't know why you wanted to join a frat)
joe said:Sounds like you just want a close group of guy friends, and you're not really that interested in a fraternity. It just happens to be the most well known way to find a clique. I personally think fraternities are awful, but that's just me. Why don't you talk to the guys at the rec and flag football games? Try to hang out with them outside of sports? Join a club in something you are actually interested in?(you said you didn't know why you wanted to join a frat)
Matt79d said:I am sorry, I was very general. I think what I ment to say is that the frat guys who are d-bags, tend to be out in the public, giving the term "frat" a bad name.
I hear "Frat", I think of all the d-bag frat guys I see out and about.
joe said:I'm from Detroit, so I'm familiar with all things Michigan. I know a lot of people who went to EMU and are in frats, and some of them are not dbags, like mg248 mentioned. I have found though in my college experiences that it is a common occurrence for someone being a dbag and also being a frat. I don't think all the bs that can go into joining a frat is worth it if you don't even know why you want to join one, other than loneliness. Being around a bunch of people can still feel lonely if you don't feel a connection with them,
Brooklyn is wonderful. I can take the subway to the city,and it takes 5 minutes. I live in a pretty neighborhood,and I know my neighbors, and it is nice to feel like I have a community because NY can get lonely sometimes. I can't see myself leaving Brooklyn(or the greater NYC area) anytime soon. One of the reasons I transferred to a art school in NYC is to get away from the frat atmosphere that rules most colleges.
Matt79d said:Id go with Joe on this one.. THIS IS JUST MY OPINION, but I think most frat guys are D-bags. You would be better off finding friends that mesh with who YOU are, instead of being thrown into a group of guys you dont know. Plus you have to do stupid rush week stuff, and pay to join.. Sounds like you already have an active life, just be more social. Ask some of the guys in the rec. center or on your football team if they wanna grab something to eat afterward or whatever.
Or meetup.com? Ive never found anything on there, but Ive heard it can be a useful site.
J O N E S B E A C H said:I see where your coming from... I'm not from the city i'm in so other than my girlfriend I really dont know anyone...and because of my major alot of my classes are full of old manics, so its hard finding people who are interested in what I am. Also must people are assholes in general, and everyone drinks and smoke all day or go to partys.. I know im in College but people just stay getting high or something, and im not for that. I never even smoked a cigarette... And parties and the club isn't my shit. I play ball and go to the movies or to Borders or to the mall to scout out chicks... I dont know dude the semester is half way over sooo hopefully it will get better in the Winter... Also because of my girlfriend. I didn't meet her on campus, we had like a graphics class in high school together, so I have know her for like 3 years, and its really hard to like experience stuff on my own, she is like always their, so i do alot of stuff with her... this my also be the problem....
Matt79d said:Ut oh! lol. Thats how life is man. In another thread, I mentioned that its tough to take a HS relationship and make it last long term. Once you get out of HS, your eyes are opened up to what all is out there. Seems like you need to make up your mind. It may just be as simple as talking to your girl, an expressing how you feel.
Do any of your girl's gfs have bfs that you get along with? (Sorry, confusing sentence)
joe said:Yeah, I'm still in art school. I'm a junior. I go to The New School, in NYC. I am a double major:Fiction Writing at the liberal arts school,and Photography at the design school. The design school is Parsons,and it is a part of the Association of Independent Colleges of Art and Design, which CCS is also a part of, so I am familiar. I've lived in Manhattan for two years, and I moved to Brooklyn three weeks ago. It's a welcome change from the fast pace of Manhattan.
That's interesting you are pursuing shoe design. My roommate just launched his shoe company. It's been a long process, but the manufacturing is almost done, and the shoes ready to be in stores. It really just depends on who you know. He was able to get contacts in China for manufacturing, he met people at school who would do the artwork for the shoes/t-shirts, and he knew people who would place his shoes in store windows. You should talk to him?
J O N E S B E A C H said:Well this is my sophomore year of college, I transferred to Eastern Michigan University and I have been anti social so far my first semester. I play ball at the rec and I play for this flag football league but its flag so its kinda ****.... I really want to join a fraternity but I'm not sure how, or what fraternity or why..... I just want to feel apart of something.. Being a 3 sport athlete in High School I hung out with same guys since like freshman year so I just need some advice because my girlfriend isn't giving me any "Bromance" and I'm tired of hanging out with her friends... So I need some ideas
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