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Is Discussing going steady with her okay?

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Only a few people here know the full story so I won't even go into it really. But I've been talking to this girl for quite a while now. Last night we went out together. I dunno if I would rly call it a date cuz we went to a Concert of a mutual friend.. So some of our other friends were there too so it was pretty casual but we did get alot of time alone just to talk... She's pretty awesome :). Usually it's a bit awkward to be with her in person but I guess we both just stopped worrying about whatever and it was great to be with her. I really like her.

I already know her quite well, but now I'm wondering if it would be weird to bring up the possibility of going into a relationship with her. She's never had a BF before and Ive never been in a serious relationship before but she's already far better than all of those tbh. Im really not sure if speaking explicitly to her about it might be too awkward tho... Not right now, after we go out a few more times
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It seems like you're handling this quite well. I think you're right in waiting a bit until you make a move. Just hang out and try to gauge how she is feeling. I think your respective lack of experiences are something that will come up, and it will frame the beginning of a prospective relationship. I hope it works out for the both of you :).
Secrecy said:
Only a few people here know the full story so I won't even go into it really. But I've been talking to this girl for quite a while now. Last night we went out together. I dunno if I would rly call it a date cuz we went to a Concert of a mutual friend.. So some of our other friends were there too so it was pretty casual but we did get alot of time alone just to talk... She's pretty awesome :). Usually it's a bit awkward to be with her in person but I guess we both just stopped worrying about whatever and it was great to be with her. I really like her.

I already know her quite well, but now I'm wondering if it would be weird to bring up the possibility of going into a relationship with her. She's never had a BF before and Ive never been in a serious relationship before but she's already far better than all of those tbh. Im really not sure if speaking explicitly to her about it might be too awkward tho... Not right now, after we go out a few more times
I'm in the EXACT same situation as you, like exact, even down to the here never having a BF and me never being in a serious relationship. Oh, but minus the concert of a mutual friend part ofc
Signature Ligature said:
How long have you known her?
A little more than a year.. I liked her for about that long too but I guess because if her inexperience, she's really cautious about getting hurt, so it took a while for her to trust me more. So I'd say we've been "talking" since February.... We're just getting the time to go out now though.. Exams were this year and we've been busy all summer
Signature Ligature said:
It seems like you're handling this quite well. I think you're right in waiting a bit until you make a move. Just hang out and try to gauge how she is feeling. I think your respective iack of experiences are something that will come up, and it will frame the beginning of a prospective relationship. I hope it works out for the both of you :).
thanks :). What i really wanna know is if it would be fine to have a little discussion with her about going into an exclusive relationship, so she knows how serious I am before I go out and ask her to be my girlfriend
Secrecy said:
A little more than a year.. I liked her for about that long too but I guess because if her inexperience, she's really cautious about getting hurt, so it took a while for her to trust me more. So I'd say we've been "talking" since February.... We're just getting the time to go out now though.. Exams were this year and we've been busy all summer
WHAT IS GOING ON!?!?! Its like you're describing my life right here...
Secrecy said:
thanks :). What i really wanna know is if it would be fine to have a little discussion with her about going into an exclusive relationship, so she knows how serious I am before I go out and ask her to be my girlfriend
I think so. Almost every relationship has that conversation. It's different for every two people, but yes, the conversation needs to happen.
Some people go the casual, jokey route when having 'the talk'. Some people go the more serious route. It all depends on what method you feel would be the most comfortable way to approach the subject with her :)
Signature Ligature said:
I think so. Almost every relationship has that conversation. It's different for every two people, but yes, the conversation needs to happen.
Signature Ligature said:
Some people go the casual, jokey route when having 'the talk'. Some people go the more serious route. It all depends on what method you feel would be the most comfortable way to approach the subject with her :)
Yeah man thanks. I'll find a way. It'll probably be more serious tho.. I can't rly predict right now obviously but in time
Signature Ligature said:
It seems like you're handling this quite well. I think you're right in waiting a bit until you make a move. Just hang out and try to gauge how she is feeling. I think your respective iack of experiences are something that will come up, and it will frame the beginning of a prospective relationship. I hope it works out for the both of you :).
SWAAAGGGED OUT!
Just take it slow. Things pick up on their own. At least in my case, that's what I did.
As long as you don't use the phrase 'going steady' hahahaha :)
You don't need to officially 'go steady' or 'ask her out.'  Just physically escalate with her (kissing, etc) & let it happen 'organically' if you will. 
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Never discuss anything with anyone, ever.

If you need to communicate, do it with punches to the stomach.

They'll understand.
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