Hi, my name is Timesitheus (but not really) and I am 18, almost 19, and a freshmen at a large University. I am eccentric, crazy, consider myself fun, funny, and I would never intentionally be mean to someone. But one thing I cannot stand is the idea of acting a certain way to get a woman. With my personality, I am much more likely to get a girl as a friend. I am not exactly boyfriend material as far as being normal goes. I am not bad looking or weird in a fucked up way, but I am not really normal. I hate talking about generic stuff, like places to eat, and shit like that. I like being myself.
Now let me give you the situation.
Girl. Beautiful, nice, and seems to like my humor. Another guy. Nice guy, generic, normal, just a regular person. She has a boyfriend, but he and I clearly both like her. I am not sure if he is looking for anyone, and obviously she isn't, but the three of us are "friends". We went to eat tonight to celebrate her birthday at a cheap diner just for fun. He offers to pay for her meal (it wasn't that expensive). I think oh shit. I manage to leave the tip without seeming suspicious. Now, during this whole thing he is doing most of the talking...and it just about boring shit, shit that I hardly wish to talk about myself because it is just boring. So I am quiet and jealous, kind of pathetic actually. But I play it off as if I had fun, and everything seems fine.
I apologize if I seem arrogant, I am just trying to be as honest as I can be.
Here is the deal. From this point forward, do I try to be more generic like him? Or do I just be myself and hope she likes that? I just can't bring myself to be someone I'm not...but if it is absolutely necessary I will