[dsabelson]

I need some help with a situation with the girl of my dreams, wanted some input.

In 2007, I met the girl of my dreams on a summer program where we spent four weeks in Europe. At the time she had a boyfriend, but I fell hard, and since then I've had the biggest crush in the world on this girl. Problem is, she lives in the South, and I'm on the East coast. We've remained incredibly close over the last few years, but we've only seen each other once, and when we did in the spring of '09, I went down to visit her and nothing happened because I was nervous and didn't want to lose the friendship aka being an immature bitch. Over this time, she's gone through countless with relationships with countless assholes, but her most recent relationship is now over and she and I are probably closer than we've ever been. I have a trip planned to see her and she has a trip planned to see me over the next few months.

The problem is with the most recent boyfriend. A little over a month ago he was arrested for beating her in public at a football game, and spent the night in prison. A few weeks later, she got back together with him and cut me off completely, not speaking to me for a month. They finally broke up for good last week after she walked in on him jerking it to gay porn. That night, she texted me finally telling me she wants me to come visit her and we started talking as we normally do.

Today, she calls me and tells me her ex came to her class and handed her a book with a letter in it. Mind you, she has a restraining order against him and the cops have been helping her throughout the process and now more than ever since they have broken up for good. She didn't read the letter, but she was told it said the kid was going to kill himself if she didn't get back together with him.

I'm stuck in the worst situation. At this point, she has to know how I feel about her and I'm pretty confident she feels the same way, but when she's going through a situation like this I have no idea what to say. I was speechless today when she called me.

If anyone has any advice or has ever helped a friend through some shit like this, please send some advice. Or if anyone has ever fallen for one of their best friends, please give some advice as well. Thanks KTT.

 

[Storm]

Find the loser some psychological help, and get with your girl.

 

[dsabelson]

Find the loser some psychological help, and get with your girl.

If we weren't over 1500 miles apart it'd be a little easier :/

 

[Good Ass Job]

I think you should tell her how you feel about her and if she feels the same ask her out, if she thinks your a good friend then she might think your a good boyfriend, if your always nice to her and that jerk isnt then she will probally give you a chance.

 

[Good Ass Job]

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPE.

Im pretty sure this would work

 

[OMGmoosetracks]

get yo ass on a plane. and tell her that you love her and she should'nt be with a guy who beats her. i hate guys like that. giveing us good guys a bad name smh

 

[Paul Revere]

In an ideal world. Works sometimes, but usually that is what we call the friend zone.

I've gotten out of the friend zone!

 

[Guapanese.]

Make your dreams a reality bro! the dude needs some serious help though.

 

[YeezyDude]

I'd normally say, that you'd keep yourself out of this situation. But since you want her this bad, then do your best to get what you want. But stay away from this mentally sick dude.

 

[dsabelson]

This really would be the move.

I'm trying to go there in a few weeks, need to approve it by the parents. She keeps telling me how much she wants me to visit, but she goes in and out of touch when she's with other guys. And when she's single we talk all the time. There's definitely feelings there, noting has ever happened, hopefully that'll change in the future.

As for the girl, I have no clue really. I don't know the relationship. So you two have never been physically intimate? How does she talk to you? Does she talk to you about these boys? Does she flirt with you often? Have you expressed clear interest? What's the tone of your interactions?

I'm just hoping you're not stuck in the "friend zone."

She doesn't really talk to me in any depth about the boys honestly. I just know if something bad happens. There's definitely flirtyness in the text, but part of that is her personality. It's so much harder to judge because I'm not with her. It's all based off of encounters via text, skype or facebook honestly. It's a tough situation because I care about her so much and we've been such great friends, she means the world to me and I hate seeing her with this d-bags from the south who don't know how to treat a woman right. And I know we'd be great for each other. She texted me the other day telling me that a girl from our program messaged her online and asked if we were in a relationship because she thought we'd be perfect for each other. And when I asked her how she responded, she told me it was girl business. Which leads me to believe that there's something there, or else she wouldn't have told me about the message, you know?

 

[Nick]

get yo ass on a plane.

do it!  this is some romantic movie type shit! haha

in all seriousness though, good luck in whatever you decide to do.  personally I think everyone here has great advice and I don't want to just repeat it.

 

[Nasir Jones]

Write her a poem. And tell her how you feel.

 

[Nick]

By the way, I did something like this. I had been talking to this girl on Facebook,and one day I just decided to go down there and visit her. I wasn't going to wait until my chance was blown. I didn't even tell anyone I was going, just bought the ticket and left. It was a boss move. 

That is pretty undeniably bad ass.

 

[dsabelson]

By the way, I did something like this. I had been talking to this girl on Facebook,and one day I just decided to go down there and visit her. I wasn't going to wait until my chance was blown. I didn't even tell anyone I was going, just bought the ticket and left. It was a boss move. 

If I had my own money right now, I would go this weekend man. I'm busy the next few weeks. I'm hoping to either go in mid-November or mid-December when I'm on break and she's still in school bc Drexel lets over a week and a half earlier than her.

 

[Paul Revere]

By the way, I did something like this. I had been talking to this girl on Facebook,and one day I just decided to go down there and visit her. I wasn't going to wait until my chance was blown. I didn't even tell anyone I was going, just bought the ticket and left. It was a boss move. 

Joe is a BOSS

 

[dsabelson]

The other night, after I texted her, instead of texting me back, she wrote this on my facebook wall:

"Thank you for being the one person in my life that no matter what, I can always rely on you no matter what. My #1 fan and #1 supporter all day everyday, I don't know what I would do without you. I love you so very much. ♥"

This girl has to like me, right? lol

 

[YeezyDude]

The other night, after I texted her, instead of texting me back, she wrote this on my facebook wall:

"Thank you for being the one person in my life that no matter what, I can always rely on you no matter what. My #1 fan and #1 supporter all day everyday, I don't know what I would do without you. I love you so very much. ♥"

This girl has to like me, right? lol

Yessir. Now don't miss this amazing chance, and move to the next step please.

 

[Nasir Jones]

pics?   

 

[fudge]

man this girl straight gangsta!

 

[dsabelson]

man this girl straight gangsta!

If rich white girl from the south is gangsta, then sure...lol.

pics?   

A little weird to post pics, lol. She's really pretty though, I promise you that. If shit works out I'll post a picture of us from when I go visit or when she comes here.