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I need some help with a situation with the girl of my dreams, wanted some input.
In 2007, I met the girl of my dreams on a summer program where we spent four weeks in Europe. At the time she had a boyfriend, but I fell hard, and since then I've had the biggest crush in the world on this girl. Problem is, she lives in the South, and I'm on the East coast. We've remained incredibly close over the last few years, but we've only seen each other once, and when we did in the spring of '09, I went down to visit her and nothing happened because I was nervous and didn't want to lose the friendship aka being an immature bitch. Over this time, she's gone through countless with relationships with countless assholes, but her most recent relationship is now over and she and I are probably closer than we've ever been. I have a trip planned to see her and she has a trip planned to see me over the next few months.
The problem is with the most recent boyfriend. A little over a month ago he was arrested for beating her in public at a football game, and spent the night in prison. A few weeks later, she got back together with him and cut me off completely, not speaking to me for a month. They finally broke up for good last week after she walked in on him jerking it to gay porn. That night, she texted me finally telling me she wants me to come visit her and we started talking as we normally do.
Today, she calls me and tells me her ex came to her class and handed her a book with a letter in it. Mind you, she has a restraining order against him and the cops have been helping her throughout the process and now more than ever since they have broken up for good. She didn't read the letter, but she was told it said the kid was going to kill himself if she didn't get back together with him.
I'm stuck in the worst situation. At this point, she has to know how I feel about her and I'm pretty confident she feels the same way, but when she's going through a situation like this I have no idea what to say. I was speechless today when she called me.
If anyone has any advice or has ever helped a friend through some shit like this, please send some advice. Or if anyone has ever fallen for one of their best friends, please give some advice as well. Thanks KTT.
In 2007, I met the girl of my dreams on a summer program where we spent four weeks in Europe. At the time she had a boyfriend, but I fell hard, and since then I've had the biggest crush in the world on this girl. Problem is, she lives in the South, and I'm on the East coast. We've remained incredibly close over the last few years, but we've only seen each other once, and when we did in the spring of '09, I went down to visit her and nothing happened because I was nervous and didn't want to lose the friendship aka being an immature bitch. Over this time, she's gone through countless with relationships with countless assholes, but her most recent relationship is now over and she and I are probably closer than we've ever been. I have a trip planned to see her and she has a trip planned to see me over the next few months.
The problem is with the most recent boyfriend. A little over a month ago he was arrested for beating her in public at a football game, and spent the night in prison. A few weeks later, she got back together with him and cut me off completely, not speaking to me for a month. They finally broke up for good last week after she walked in on him jerking it to gay porn. That night, she texted me finally telling me she wants me to come visit her and we started talking as we normally do.
Today, she calls me and tells me her ex came to her class and handed her a book with a letter in it. Mind you, she has a restraining order against him and the cops have been helping her throughout the process and now more than ever since they have broken up for good. She didn't read the letter, but she was told it said the kid was going to kill himself if she didn't get back together with him.
I'm stuck in the worst situation. At this point, she has to know how I feel about her and I'm pretty confident she feels the same way, but when she's going through a situation like this I have no idea what to say. I was speechless today when she called me.
If anyone has any advice or has ever helped a friend through some shit like this, please send some advice. Or if anyone has ever fallen for one of their best friends, please give some advice as well. Thanks KTT.